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Advice for Friends and Family: How to Support a Loved One Through Infant Loss

Supporting a loved one through infant loss can be challenging, but your empathy and understanding can make a significant difference.

What to Say

  • Offer Condolences: Simple statements like “I’m so sorry for your loss” can be comforting.

  • Listen: Sometimes, being there to listen is the most valuable support you can offer.

What Not to Say

  • Avoid Clichés: Phrases like “It was meant to be” or “They’re in a better place” can feel dismissive.

  • Don't Minimize the Loss: Avoid suggesting that they can “have another baby” as a way to move on.

Practical Help

  • Offer Specific Help: Rather than saying “Let me know if you need anything,” offer specific assistance, such as cooking meals or helping with household chores.

  • Respect Their Grief: Understand that everyone grieves differently and give them space when needed.

Understanding the Grief Process: A Guide for Friends and Family

Grief after infant loss is a long and complex process. Understanding what your loved one might be going through can help you provide better support.

Stages of Grief

  • Shock and Denial: Initial disbelief and numbness.

  • Anger and Bargaining: Feelings of frustration and helplessness.

  • Depression and Reflection: Deep sadness and contemplation of the loss.

  • Reconstruction: Slowly beginning to find ways to move forward.

  • Acceptance: Coming to terms with the loss, although the pain remains.

Ongoing Support

  • Be Patient: Grief has no timeline, and your loved one may need long-term support.

  • Check In Regularly: Regular check-ins can show that you care and are there for them.

  • Encourage Self-Care: Gently encourage them to take care of their physical and mental health.

Understanding and patience are key in helping your loved one navigate their grief journey. Your support can make a profound difference in their healing process.

If you would like information about how to help place a Cenotaph Cradle at your local hospital, please get in touch with us here. Cenotaph Cradles extend the amount of time a family can spend with their newborn, and it can make a world of difference in the grieving process.



Does your hospital have a cooling cradle?

Donating a Cenotaph Cradle to your local hospital can memorialize a baby, and help families affected by infant loss in the future gain the gift of time. 

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